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Chapter 5 Is Early Experience Destiny? The Real Effect Sizes of Longitudinal Studies
“Your family of origin determines your whole life” is one of the most compelling claims in popular psychology. It has a true core: early caregiving is related to later attachment. But its “determines” has to be heavily discounted in the face of longitudinal data.
How stable is attachment?
Evidence
Meta-analysis. Pinquart, Feußner and Ahnert pooled 127 papers, 21,072 attachment assessments and 225 time intervals, from infancy to early adulthood. The average stability correlation of attachment security between two assessments was , a medium value; it was higher for intervals of less than two years than for intervals of more than five; and over intervals longer than 15 years stability was no longer significant (Pinquart et al. 2013). An earlier meta-analysis and dynamic modelling by Fraley compared two views of development: the “revisionist” view, in which early models are gradually rewritten by later experience, and the “prototype” view, in which the early model persists as a stable component; he concluded that the data then available fitted the prototype view better (Fraley 2002). The two studies do not fully agree about long-term stability, but both show stability far from “determination”.
Evidence
From birth to age 18. Fraley, Roisman and colleagues analysed the US National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD) Study of Early Child Care and Youth Development: 1,364 children followed from birth, with adult attachment measured at 18 in a subsample. Variations in early maternal sensitivity, social competence in childhood and the quality of adolescent friendships, among others, predicted attachment anxiety or avoidance at 18, but each effect was small; temperament and most of the genetic polymorphisms tested predicted almost nothing, the one exception being a serotonin-receptor gene polymorphism (HTR2A rs6313), which modestly predicted higher attachment anxiety (Fraley et al. 2013).
Translating these numbers into everyday language needs a little calculation.
Calculation
# How much does early attachment fix adult attachment? Pinquart, Feussner & Ahnert (2013) pooled
# 127 studies: overall stability r = .39, higher over short intervals, and no significant stability
# over intervals longer than 15 years. Three ways to read such numbers.
import math
r = 0.39
print(f"1. r = {r:.2f} means the earlier measure accounts for r^2 = {r * r:.0%} of the variance of the later one")
# 2. If 'secure' vs 'insecure' is a median split of an underlying continuous variable, the chance
# that a person falls on the same side twice is 1/2 + arcsin(r)/pi (bivariate normal, Sheppard).
same = 0.5 + math.asin(r) / math.pi
print(f"2. same side of a median split both times: {same:.0%} (50 % by chance alone; kappa = {2 * same - 1:.2f})")
# 3. Two simple models of change (compared by Fraley 2002). Yearly correlation of the changing part
# 0.80 in both; the 'prototype' model adds a stable component carrying 25 % of the variance.
print("3. correlation between age 1 and later ages under two models")
print(" years later | 1 | 2 | 5 | 10 | 15 | 20")
rev = [0.8 ** k for k in (1, 2, 5, 10, 15, 20)]
pro = [0.25 + 0.75 * 0.8 ** k for k in (1, 2, 5, 10, 15, 20)]
print(" revisionist | " + " | ".join(f"{v:.2f}" for v in rev))
print(" prototype | " + " | ".join(f"{v:.2f}" for v in pro))
print(" the revisionist model decays toward 0; the prototype model levels off at the stable share (0.25)")
# 1. r = 0.39 means the earlier measure accounts for r^2 = 15% of the variance of the later one
# 2. same side of a median split both times: 63% (50 % by chance alone; kappa = 0.26)
# 3. correlation between age 1 and later ages under two models
# years later | 1 | 2 | 5 | 10 | 15 | 20
# revisionist | 0.80 | 0.64 | 0.33 | 0.11 | 0.04 | 0.01
# prototype | 0.85 | 0.73 | 0.50 | 0.33 | 0.28 | 0.26
# the revisionist model decays toward 0; the prototype model levels off at the stable share (0.25)means the earlier measure explains only about 15 % of the variance of the later one; 85 % comes from elsewhere: later relationships, life events, measurement error. If people are split at the median into “more secure” and “less secure”, the chance of being in the same group twice is about 63 %, only 13 percentage points above the 50 % of chance (kappa about 0.26). The two developmental models differ over the long run: in the revisionist model the correlation between early and later decays toward zero, in the prototype model it levels off at the share carried by the stable component. Even in the prototype model, that stable part is only a small share of the variance.
Note
“Not destiny” does not mean “no effect”. Fifteen per cent of variance explained is not small in psychology, and for children in severe neglect or abuse early experience may matter far more. What is being corrected here is the certainty of “determines your whole life”, not the importance of early care.
Can a relationship revise an old model?
If early models are not fixed, how do they change?
Evidence
Why attachment style changes. Davila, Burge and Hammen followed young women for two years and found that changes in attachment style came partly from life events, but a considerable part was related to stable features of the person: those with more psychological difficulties and more difficult family backgrounds showed more fluctuation in attachment style (Davila et al. 1997). The role of relationship situations. The review by Arriaga, Kumashiro, Simpson and Overall proposes that a partner’s way of responding in particular situations (reliably giving reassurance when an anxious partner needs it, respecting an avoidant partner’s pace without withdrawing from the relationship when they feel pressed) may gradually revise a person’s working model; but they also note that most existing evidence is correlational, and direct causal tests are still few (Arriaga et al. 2018).
Calculation
A three-state Markov chain (insecure, mixed, secure), one step per month. With a fairly responsive partner, the monthly probability of moving up one state is 0.08 and of moving down 0.03; with an unresponsive partner the two numbers are swapped. The probabilities are assumptions, not estimates; the model only shows how small monthly tilts accumulate.
# Can a relationship revise an early working model? A three-state Markov chain, one step per month,
# for felt security within a relationship: 0 = insecure, 1 = mixed, 2 = secure. With a responsive
# partner, a month moves a person up one state with probability 0.08 and down with 0.03; with an
# unresponsive partner the numbers are swapped. The probabilities are illustrative assumptions, not
# estimates; the chain only shows how small monthly tilts add up (cf. Arriaga et al. 2018).
def step(dist, up, down):
new = [0.0, 0.0, 0.0]
for s, p in enumerate(dist):
u = up if s < 2 else 0.0; d = down if s > 0 else 0.0
new[s] += p * (1 - u - d)
if s < 2: new[s + 1] += p * u
if s > 0: new[s - 1] += p * d
return new
def after(months, up, down, start=(1.0, 0.0, 0.0)):
dist = list(start)
for _ in range(months): dist = step(dist, up, down)
return dist
def stationary(up, down):
q = up / down # birth-death chain: pi_s proportional to q^s
w = [1, q, q * q]; return [v / sum(w) for v in w]
def mean_months_to_secure(up, down):
# expected months to first reach state 2 from state 0, from the first-step equations
# T0 = 1 + up*T1 + (1-up)*T0 T1 = 1 + down*T0 + (1-up-down)*T1
a11, a12, b1 = up, -up, 1.0 # up*T0 - up*T1 = 1
a21, a22, b2 = -down, up + down, 1.0 # -down*T0 + (up+down)*T1 = 1
det = a11 * a22 - a12 * a21
return (b1 * a22 - a12 * b2) / det
print("starting insecure; share in each state (insecure / mixed / secure)")
for label, up, down in (("responsive partner", 0.08, 0.03), ("unresponsive partner", 0.03, 0.08)):
rows = [after(m, up, down) for m in (12, 36, 60)]
print(f"{label:21s}: 1 yr " + " / ".join(f"{v:.0%}" for v in rows[0]) + "; 3 yr " + " / ".join(f"{v:.0%}" for v in rows[1])
+ "; 5 yr " + " / ".join(f"{v:.0%}" for v in rows[2]))
print(f"{'':21s} long run " + " / ".join(f"{v:.0%}" for v in stationary(up, down))
+ f"; mean time from insecure to secure {mean_months_to_secure(up, down) / 12:.1f} years")
# starting insecure; share in each state (insecure / mixed / secure)
# responsive partner : 1 yr 43% / 36% / 21%; 3 yr 16% / 29% / 55%; 5 yr 11% / 26% / 64%
# long run 9% / 25% / 66%; mean time from insecure to secure 2.5 years
# unresponsive partner : 1 yr 79% / 18% / 3%; 3 yr 69% / 24% / 8%; 5 yr 67% / 25% / 9%
# long run 66% / 25% / 9%; mean time from insecure to secure 13.0 yearsIn this assumed model, a person starting “insecure” who spends five years with a fairly responsive partner has about a 64 % chance of being “secure”, and reaches “secure” for the first time after about two and a half years on average. With an unresponsive partner, about 67 % are still “insecure” after five years. Change is cumulative, and it runs both ways: the same mechanism means that a relationship persistently lacking in responsiveness can push an originally secure person toward insecurity.
“Earned security”
The Adult Attachment Interview has a concept called “earned security”: a person who recalls a fairly negative childhood but can talk about it coherently and in a balanced way is rated secure. It is often cited as evidence that “an unhappy early life can still lead to a secure adult”.
Evidence
Prospect versus retrospect. In the Minnesota longitudinal study, Roisman, Padrón, Sroufe and Egeland compared people classified retrospectively in adulthood as “earned secure” with the maternal care they had been prospectively observed to receive in childhood. The care these people had actually received was not poor, but similar to that of the “continuously secure”. At 23 they reported somewhat more internalising distress (such as depression and anxiety) than the continuously secure, but the difference was only marginal (p = .10), and they did not differ from the insecure. The authors could not rule out that retrospectively defined earned security partly reflects depression-related recall bias rather than a real change from insecure to secure (Roisman et al. 2002).
So “earned security” is a contested concept, at least as measured retrospectively. This does not deny that relationships can revise working models (the studies and the model in the previous section support that possibility); it is a reminder that an account such as “my childhood was awful and now I’m fine” cannot be taken directly as evidence of change. Real evidence needs the same people to be followed prospectively.
Hypothesis · not established
Specificity of responsiveness (not yet established). How far a partner’s responsiveness revises a working model depends on whether it is aimed at the other’s particular insecurity: for someone high in attachment anxiety, the most effective is prompt, predictable reassurance when they voice worry; for someone high in avoidance, the most effective is staying available without pressure (“I’m here; talk when you’re ready”). Testable prediction: in a diary study, declines in anxiety scores relate mainly to the frequency of “reassurance” responses and declines in avoidance mainly to “available without pressure” responses. If the two kinds of response act no differently on the two dimensions, the hypothesis is weakened.
Chapter summary
The average stability correlation of attachment security from infancy to early adulthood is about 0.39, explaining about 15 % of the variance, and over intervals longer than 15 years it is no longer significant. Early care predicts adult attachment, but with small effects. Attachment styles change; a partner’s way of responding may be one source of change, but causal evidence is still scarce; retrospective “earned security” may be affected by depression-related recall bias. Early experience matters, but it is not destiny. The next chapter returns to conflict itself: what makes it stop.
References
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